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Hanging up my hat.

After five years, one week, four days, and 2,567 posts, I have decided that it’s time to finally hang up my blogging hat.

Each of our lives are filled with chapters, and this chapter in my life is coming to a close.

Blogging has taken far too much of my time away from my family and has been the source of countless contentious disagreements in the blogosphere; many unnecessarily so. (Also, the two separate stalkers and the occasional threats of lawsuits by professing Christians didn’t exactly make blogging life a walk in the park either.)

There were several occasions over the years where I considered throwing in the towel but every time I pondered doing so I would receive a timely e-mail of thanks and encouragement from a reader for the work being done on DefCon, and that would always be enough to persuade me to remain on the front lines.

I am now, however, beyond weary with battle fatigue and in need of a hiatus (even while on vacation from work for the past half decade I was never on vacation from the blog).

The amount of time needed daily to approve or reject incoming comments, to answer questions, to reply to comments, to respond to complaints, to find and post important articles, to write and publish new material, and the overall maintenance of the blog itself, has taken its toll.

Although arduous and laborious, it certainly hasn’t been all bad. Many great things have come from this labor of love including the friends that have been made and even support for missions work in Liberia, West Africa which has come from faithful readers like you.

I even grew a lot over the years; learning that not every hill was worth dying on and that there’s much value in being gracious and kind to everyone, even those who disagree with me.

I will surely miss blogging, but I am certain that one day–if the Lord affords me time on a deathbed–I will experience greater regret having missed precious time with my family and raising my children in the Lord, than the fact that I missed out on one more debate on the Internet.

So, at this point,  you’re probably asking yourself what will become of DefCon. Have no fear, it will still be here, but with a new captain at the helm. It is with great honor that I announce that the new pilot of DefCon will be my dear friend, faithful brother, and fellow writer, Chris Hohnholz.

I am certain that he will do a great job with the blog (in whatever direction it goes) and all for the glory of God.

Saying goodbye is not easy. The idea of walking away from what I’ve poured so much time, energy, and effort into for half a decade is very bittersweet, but I take comfort in knowing that the torch will be passed into good hands.

I’d like to conclude by saying thank you to all DefCon’s faithful readers and commenters who have been an encouragement to me in this endeavor, as well as to all DefCon’s writers who–like me–have sacrificed their time over the years contributing to this work. I have learned a lot from all of you and I hope that you have learned a few things from me as well.

Please continue to keep me and the writers of this blog in your prayers. You will all be greatly missed.

Stay the course and never compromise.

Sincerely,
– Pilgrim

“Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, and to make you stand in the presence of His glory blameless with great joy, to the only God our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion and authority, before all time and now and forever. Amen.”   Jude 24-25

40 comments on “Hanging up my hat.

  1. Wow! I just got here a few months ago, and you’re leaving! It’s not because of me is it? ;-)
    Anyway, thank you for your hard work, diligence, interesting posts, non-pragmatic approach, and trustworthy content (other than your apparent ‘dispy’ leanings…there ya go ATG). Much success for your future endeavors.

    Todd
    Texas

  2. Thank for all your efforts and time. I’m glad you are focusing energy on your family. This is our first ministry. God bless you.

  3. Pilgrim,

    Sad to see you go. You are my favorite author on this blog. Always excellent work. I will miss your teaching.

  4. **Understood. I have minor blogs, and though I’d like to have a wider set of readers, one joy of smaller blogs is I can do what I want, when I want, if I want. Besides, my children are long grown, and an old man needs a hobby! Even more importantly, Grandma doesn’t mind!

    I am not sure I ever communicated with you, I read so many blogs, but thanks for your effort. You seem to be making the right decision. God bless.

    David L.

  5. Hard to read your goodbye post but as WB wrote, your family comes first! May the Lord bless you and yours in the days ahead!!
    By the way, how did you know that Jude 24-25 was at the top of my list :<)

  6. Pilgrim,

    I must admit, I feel quite saddened by this (but completely understand and support you in your wise decision). I will truly miss you (despite the fact that I don’t know your real name or even what you look like!). DefCon has been such a blessing to me…God used you all to open my eyes to the Doctrines of Grace and such truth (over a year or more ago!). I will be forever grateful.

    Thank you, so much, for all your hard work and devotion to your brothers and sisters in Christ through this ministry. Please know it is greatly appreciated and I praise God for you! :) I am very passionate about family and think you are doing best thing. Seasons come and go…and this season has gone (and don’t worry….the internet will always be here, Lord willing, if God calls you to a new season of online ministry!).

    You know where my blog is…if you find a free moment, I hope you will stop by and say *hello* from time to time! :)
    Thank you for everything you have done.

    In Christian Love and Gratefulness,
    Katy :o)

  7. The internet just became a little less interesting. :-/

    Thank you, Pilgrim, for your insight, teaching, and fellowship over the years. May the Lord keep you strong through the remaining part of your journey with Him in this life and bless you and your family greatly.

    Until we meet face-to-face in the glory of His Presence…

    The Lord bless you, and keep you; the Lord make His face shine on you, and be gracious unto you; the Lord lift up His countenance on you, and give you peace. (Numbers 6:24-26)

    In Christ,
    Cruci-Fide

  8. Thanks for all the blogs you have wrote. I have truly enjoyed them. I hate to see you stop but understand the reasons why. Enjoy your time!!

  9. My dear brother Pilgrim,

    I understand very well what you are saying. And I fully support your decision to put your family first. I know the time commitment is great in running a blog without a comment section, let alone answering, moderating, and dealing with comments. I know how hard this decision is, because I know that you are very gifted from the Lord in discernment. That you see things that others seem oblivious to. And you want them to see, for the sake of their eternity, for the sake of defending God’s truth, for the sake of glorifying the Lord. And I know you have a heart for the lost, as well as for God’s people who are falling prey daily to a wide variety of deceptions, overt and subtle.

    Know, and always remember, that your time at DefCon has been very fruitful for the Kingdom! You have made an eternal difference in many, many lives! And I am forever grateful for you, and your faithful service to Christ!

    May the Lord Jesus Christ richly bless you, dear brother. And I look forward with great anticipation to meeting you at the coming of the Lord.

    Until then, farewell.
    “RS”

  10. Thanks for your terrific posts, Pilgrim. All the best to you and yours.

  11. Oh man!…..when I saw the title of this post on my blog, I thought to myself “Obviously someone is leaving DefCon, I hope it’s not Pilgrim”.

    Very sad, you will be a BIG miss brother, God bless

    Jude 2

  12. Thank you for being here to help me learn and also for your hard work. I have been rewarded greatly in my study and learning from this site. you have taught me how to discern some of what goes on in my denomination (SBC), but also how to pray and approach those issues biblical. Again THANK YOU

  13. Sad to hear this even though i know i was one of the commentators you always had to delete.

  14. Thank you for all the hard work over the years and may God be glorfied and the church be edified because of it!!!

  15. Brother, I know I am saddened by your departure, but DefCon’s loss is your family’s gain. We have all been blessed by your time on this blog and your tireless efforts to defend the faith. I am humbled that you have left this blog in my care. I pray that I will justify for your faith in me and that we continue to bring glory God through our efforts here. God bless you and your family my friend.

  16. You mean all it took was a Pat Paulson for President link to put you over the top!?!?
    I appreciate you, brother! Enjoy your new found “too much time on your hands!”
    See you in Glory friend!! Email me if you get bored he.must_increase@roadrunner.com
    And finally, what kind of pseudo-name is Chris Hohnholz any ways!?!?

  17. if we get a spare moment from praising God in heaven, it would be nice to meet some of the people I’ve read blogs of over the years who i never got to meet here.
    thank you for choosing to put your family ahead of others. I pray God would grant you wisdom and insight as you do this.

  18. God bless you and thank you for your labor.

  19. I only just found your blog, and it has been such an excellent resource in my growth and search for knowledge and truth. I pray that God will continue to bless and use what you have poured your heart into thus far, and that your time gained from not blogging will truly be what you have been desiring. Thank you. :) I do hope that previous posts and such will stay, as this blog is an excellent research cite for me.

  20. God be with you Pilgrim. It was a great joy and honor to be part of the DefCon team for a season. Where you should be well encouraged in the work you have done as seeds have been planted where I\’m certain many will bear eternal fruit.

    I also commend you for your decision to re-prioritize and put your family first. Too often we have been led to believe that ministry is always ”out there” where home and our primary mission field (if we have families) is placed in second or even a lower place. And we fail to see, often until it is too late, that the garden God has entrusted us with is withering due to neglect. I trust God will greatly bless your decision and while you will never be able to go back and re-gain lost time, I\’m believing he will redeem those lost hours.

    Your brother in the faith
,
    bro Michael

  21. Pilgrim,

    You have been an encouragement to Christ’s own, you stood boldly for truth in a loving way. Now the Lord has re-directed your attention to where it is needed most…your family. I commend you for this decision brother. Thank you for letting me be a part of this blog for a season, and thank you for being a warrior…to God be all glory and praise.

    Lyn

  22. Thank you all for your kind comments.

    Some made me laugh, some choked me up, but all humbled me. I had no idea how much this blog has helped and meant to some of you. I always viewed it as just a “hobby,” and quite possibly, a “waste of time” but never really “a ministry.” I guess I was wrong and had much too low of a view of the very work I was involved in.

    I am very grateful that so many of you benefitted from the work here, and your comments are making it difficult to follow through on my decision, but I must do what I’ve determined.

    And yes, my past posts will remain up (at least for a while) as Chris has no intentions of taking them down anytime soon.

    I feel so sad about this; I feel like I’m losing old friends (which I am), but as much as I’m torn over it, I know it’s the right thing to do. I am comforted, however, by the fact that Chris, who has the heart of an evangelist, will seek to continue to keep DefCon a quality and sound blog. I truly did not want the blog to come to an end just because of my departure, and I am grateful that Chris is willing to step in and labor forth.

    Every day that I am granted another breath that I don’t deserve, I become more aware of how wretched I truly am. When I survey my condition, I conclude (like Isaiah, David, and Paul): Woe is me, for I am ruined (Isaiah 6:5), because my sin is ever before me (Psalm 51:3), I am the chief of sinners (1 Timothy 1:15), and nothing good dwells in me, wretched man that I am (Romans 7:8)!

    I am ever learning what a great sinner I am, yet so desperatly needing to be reminded what a greater Savior He is.

    Yes, the time away will be good for my family, and it will be good for me as well. My wife is happy to have her husband back and our kids are going to get much more undistracted, undivided daddy time.

    Go bless you all.

  23. Lord bless, brother. I commend your decision.

    As I told you previously, I see a lot of value in this kind of site. I thank you for starting it. I thank you for refusing to let its size rule your life. I thank you for obviously striving to remain gracious while holding a strong position.

  24. How sad but thank you for your service! I appreciated it! How about blogging here once in a while instead of hanging it all up all together?

  25. Dear Pilgrim,

    When I first met you in person, you were running a small blog called Reformation Nation that did not have nearly the readership that DefCon has now. Both of us were rambunctious in our dreams and aspirations, and in some areas were still rough around the edges. Not that either of us have arrived by any means for we still have areas to change and grow in before our Lord makes us completely perfect and holy by taking us to be with Him where there will be no more sin.

    For whatever reason, you invited me as your new pastor to be a part of what had just changed to DefCon. The journey has been fraught with trials, joys, much long-suffering, not just with commentators, but also even with ourselves as we grew together in the love of the Lord Jesus Christ.

    While each of us had a large part to play in our lives and the lives of our families, one of the highlights we will long remember is the trip you made with us to Liberia. Although, you had never been outside the USA, you went to see the people that we have long prayed for and you came back a changed person. It only took a week to see the plight of Christians who live, serve and die in 3rd world countries for you to have an increased level of devotion to the work of the Lord, especially in the realm of missions.

    You graciously have helped us in so many ways, including the use of this blogsite to promote the work here in Liberia and for that I extend once again (publicly) my thanks. I know your dear wife and children are going to enjoy all the free time with their daddy and the changes this will bring as you seek to shepherd them for the glory of God.

    While we may not have always agreed, nor will we always agree in some areas, I sincerely believe that my favorite verse has been played out on the stage of a computer many times over. 1 Cor. 10:31, “Therefore, whether you eat or drink or WHATSOEVER you do, do ALL to the glory of God.”

    Thanks for being here for these last 5 years. Thank you for your continued friendship. Thank you for your love for missions. Thank you for being willing to listen to the needs of your family as you walk into the future. You have carried the baton for a long time, and Chris is a wonderful brother and friend, who will now pick it up and carry it into the future. One day, we will all finish our part of the race, and my prayer is that we will hear, “Well done, you have been a good and faithful servant!”

    May the Lord bless you and keep you, and cause His face to shine upon you, and grant you peace.

    In much Christian love and grace,

    Mark – TJM

  26. Thank you so much for your blog!
    Actually, you encoraged us to start our bi-lingual blog (english & german):

    http://jesaja662.wordpress.com

    Our prayer is to continue some small, very small, very, very small piece of your (closed) blog’s intention, goals and zeal. Thanks again!

  27. I can’t add any more to the wealth of comments that have already been given, but I just wanted to say, goodbye, and take care.

    God bless.

  28. I will confess that I was a bigger fan back in the days when DefCon was Reformation Nation, and over time I have checked in less and less as the point-of-view of the blog (this is just my opinion) tilted more toward a particular type of Calvinism. But I want to say this clearly, Pilgrim. Your blogging has been a big blessing to me over all, and, as someone who has been blogging on a much smaller scale for a while, I greatly appreciate your dedication and faithfulness. I have learned much here, and I thank you for your graciousness in allowing me to comment from time to time. I truly believe that your labor in the Lord has NOT been in vain (I Corinthians 15:58).

  29. I cannot thank you enough for starting DefCon and thinking of m,y measly contribution to the blogosphere enough to put me in such elite company as Bill Phillips, Desert Pastor (now Jungle Missionary), Isaiah Chua (remember him?) and all the others, some of whom have carried on the work (Chris), others have made the same decision to end their blogging days (Brian Culver). But the blessing I have received in learning from all the contributors, and having to dig into the word to answer the many critics and heretics can never be measured and I thank the Lord that through you I was given that opportunity.

    Many thanks and blessings,
    4*P

  30. Pilgrim – I am also sad to see you hang up your hat and will truly miss your writing, however as many have already said, our family is our first ministry. Please feel confident that you have done the right thing. I would also like to say that this was definitely not just a hobby. This was a true ministry and I believe discipleship. It is obvious that you touched many lives, mine as well. Through this blog you were faithful to Matthew 28:18 – 20, and now you are continuing to be faithful to the Lord by serving your wife and children. You provided me and my family much help through a very difficult time when the Lord revealed to us how pagan Christmas truly is. I will always appreciate your contribution to the Kingdom!

    God Bless!

    All4Jesus

  31. All your kind and encouraging words, and all your nostalgic reminiscings are not making my departure any easier, guys. :-)

    I am still so humbled by those who have been touched, encouraged, edified, strengthened, and helped by the work here. And to think, after all these years I thought that all I was doing was ranting and whining and wasting time (at least that’s what all my critics constantly accused me of). It is so nice to see that it was more than that . . . so much more than that.

    I can honestly say that I was encouraged, edified, strengthened, and helped by the writers and commenters here as well, and I am now deeply touched by everyone’s parting sentiments.

    Perhaps I’lll stop in from time to time to leave a comment here and there (I’m sure I’ll be a regular reader), but if I don’t sever my blogging ties all together and put myself on the sidelines, I’ll be tempted to keep trying to run with the ball when I should be on the bench.

    Thank you all again for the wonderful, heartfelt words; I am truly humbled by them and I will never forget you all.

    – Pilgrim

  32. This was the first blog I found after coming out of false teaching. I learned so much from here and am grateful to you Pilgrim for your pursuit of truth, also your humility
    Blessings to you and your family, thank you so much. I feel like I’m losing a member of my family, well actually we are family Thanks again

  33. I don’t really know you Pilgrim since I haven’t come here much. But I’ve read many of your comments from past posts and you have defended the faith well brother…

    I’m joyful that you are choosing what’s most important… I’m sure you will be greatly missed here with those who have known you for awhile now. But you have left a legacy and have left an example that will not ever be forgotten…The ripples will continue to be used by the Lord ..

    May God richly bless you and your family

  34. Pilgrim,

    Pilgrim,

    You are a dear brother and a great friend. I am sure this decision might be one of the hardest you’ve ever had to make. Thank you for your labor and efforts over the years. I pray that God will open a new door and a new ministry and that you will be astounded in a fresh and new way by God’s grace and steadfast love.

    Your brother,
    atg

  35. We haven’t always seen eye to eye, didn’t always agree, even didn’t always get along. But even in the areas I think you are wrong on *cough, youth ministry, cough*, you always gave me something to think about.

  36. Pilgrim,

    Thank you so much for your ministry. I have been reading your posts since Reformation Nation. That was a wonderful blog and so is DefCon. I appreciate all the work that has gone into this blog over the years. I have learned so much from you all. You will be greatly missed here,Pilgrim. May God richly bless you and your family.
    In your debt,
    Rose

  37. I also just got here a couple of months ago. You will be sorely missed. In the age of liberal evangelism, People contending for truth is rare. Thank you for your wisdom and diligence. I pray that God blesses your next adventure.

  38. Farewell, brother.

  39. Sincere good wishes from your old UK sparring partner Fifth Horseman. Family is so much more important than Internet debates, and that’s the first thing you and I have ever agreed on! No hard feelings, I hope. Good luck to you. Andrew

  40. What a blessing you have been to the blogging world! It is so hard to find information on some topics and to get opinions from those that have been walking with the Lord for longer but I am so glad God put you here and used you to speak what he put on your heart to say for a time but I think I am also very glad you decided to hang up the hat because I think no reader wants your family to suffer for your service. As we often see and hear ministers put their ministry above their family and I think since blogging is such a widespread and time consuming ministry it is so easy to get caught up in it even though what is being said can be such a blessing to others. So I thank you for showing us that your heart is truly in the right place and that you realize what is truly important because this is probably the greatest testimony out of all the the posts I have read and after reading DefCon all day this is definitely the post that encouraged me the most and gave me the most peace, to see a man say, “family” (even if it was months ago) but for me you just hung up the hat today :) That is what we need to see from more men I think. Paul Washer has been a great blessing to me in that way as well, thank you for reflecting what of Christ you could and God bless you and your family!
    -Ben

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