I have repeatedly heard from homosexuals insisting their relationships are based on love; I find just the opposite in God’s word…
We will start with Matthew 15:19-20 to understand where this sexual sin is birthed, “for out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: these are the things which defile a man.” These words are spoken by the Lord Jesus Himself as to what defiles, we focus on the origin…the heart. In the original language heart means ‘thoughts, feelings, the mind; the seat of everything: of the soul so far as it is affected and stirred in a bad or good way, the soul/mind as the seat of sensibilities, affections, emotions, desires, appetites, passions’. This is evidence sin is birthed in the thoughtlife. We now focus on what is birthed in the mind, the meaning of fornication, which translates ‘adultery, homosexuality, lesbianism, illicit sexual intercourse’. We now know the origin and definition of fornication, what does the Lord think about this sin? In Christ’s own words, homosexuality and lesbianism are a defiling act which means ‘unclean, pollute, to make profane, render unhallowed’. If homosexuality and lesbianism are defiling, how can it be called love?
The clearest picture on what homosexuality is based on is found in Romans 1:26-27, ‘for this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions: for their women exchanged natural (produced by nature, inborn) relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed (to set on fire, to be kindled) with passion (lust-excitement of the mind, a longing after, desire, craving for) for another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error’. Here we see what happens when sinners suppress the truth of God’s word, He lets men go headlong into sin, turning them over to what they desire most by not restraining their unbridled passions: the result is moral decay. What comes natural has now been shunned for what is contrary to nature, what was instilled at birth has now been exchanged for a forbidden lust. So if at birth, we were instilled with what comes natural, how is it the homosexual claims they were born that way? The only answer is they choose to follow their own lustful desires, which is what God’s word proclaims.
Here lies the key to what homosexuals base their relationships on…lust. Their relationships are fueled by a burning desire that consumes and drives them. This is the reason for turbulence in these types of relationships, they are like wild animals who stalk their prey, launch their attack and conquer. Lust is never satisfied, it must be fed over and over and over; it does not care who or what must be conquered to satisfy. It does not feel love for its prey, it only thinks of ‘self’ and consumes the homosexual to repeatedly feed his/her craving. Love, on the other hand, is giving and is made manifest in doing for others, especially husbands towards wives and wives towards husbands. The intimacy of love between a husband and wife is one of giving, not taking; to please another and not self: it is filled with a trusting heart as well as tenderness and faithfulness. Love is God’s gift between a man and a woman, lust is a result of rejecting true love with a desire to only please ‘self’.
Come on – aren’t you being a little judgmental? I think dedicated homosexual relationships can be based on love – of self!
In addition to the Truth you posted, let’s not forget the Apostle Paul’s admonition that, I think, supports your position and rebukes those apostates who have an erroneous concept of love.
“For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy”
Well, I’m pretty upset that I had this long, articulate response written out, only to accidentally delete it. So, down to the (somewhat) shorter version: first, after reading Romans 1, I recommend to keep reading down into Romans 2 to get the full context of what Paul is saying. (Something about being careful in how we judge, lest we judge ourselves…)
I would argue that the main reason homosexual relationships are sinful is NOT because they are based on lust, but because they are simply a perversion of God’s natural order. They are an abomination. Certainly lust is involved with a lot of these relationships, but lust is lust, and is just as sinful in any context, whether it be in a homosexual one, or a heterosexual one. To paint all homosexuals as lustful predators, and all homosexual relationships as based on lust, is inaccurate. I’m in no way condoning homosexuality, or ignoring God’s Word (He says it’s an abomination, I believe it), I’m just keeping in mind certain precious believers I know who struggle with homosexual orientation, honestly hate it and want to conquer it, and who would say with all sincerity that they were no more in a homosexual relationship for lust than any heterosexual person ever was. Most of these people I know—and there are millions more out there like them—came from extremely broken homes, were sexually abused, neglected, etc., and while not “born” homosexual, were certainly influenced and confused by their broken backgrounds.
So I think, as Christians, we need to be careful how we respond to homosexuals, especially those who are believers themselves and honestly struggle with this sin. Preach truth, absolutely, but preach it in love, keeping in mind our own sinfulness and dependence on God’s grace, lest we judge ourselves. Homosexuality is not primarily an outworking of lust, but of SIN, and thanks to the breakdown in the family in recent years, and in morality in general, it’s not surprising that sexual perversion is on the rise. Satan is having a heyday. Let’s not add to the problem by unjustly painting all homosexuals with one broad stroke and risk losing them, when many ARE actually looking for love, they are simply looking in the wrong places.
Marie,
There is no doubt homosexuality is sin and not because it is based on lust. I never intended to insinuate this as sin simply because it is based on lust. My point in the post is that homosexuals are wrong when they claim their relationship is one of love. I regret you misunderstood the purpose of this post; in the future I will try and be clear.
As for homosexuals who struggle with this sin, only Christ can free anyone from the bondage. I do not think trying to search and find a reason for falling into this sin is as important as encouraging them to cry out for mercy. Whatever may have happened in my childhood has no bearing on my choosing this perversion later on in life, simply put, I fell into his perversion because of my sinful heart…period. sometimes we ‘over analyze’ sin looking for a reason. The Bible gives us the reason, our sin nature as well as sinful heart. I do not blame anyone but me for every sin I ever committed/will commit. It’s time we quit trying to pass the buck and explain accountability, regardless.
As for speaking in love, I believe the best example of that is to give biblical truth and quit sugarcoating things. Mike Ratliff at ‘possessing the treasure’ said it best in one of his responses to his post, ‘we need some good ole fashioned fire and brimstone preaching’…I fully agree.
As for those who may be looking for love, before I would tackle that issue, I first must give them the Gospel because they have much bigger issues than relationship problems, their very soul is damned to hell. Preach Gospel, Gopsel, Gospel!!!
Any homosexual who states their relationship isn’t based on lust does not have a biblical understanding of what fuels their passion. As for those who still struggle, if the Son sets you free, you are free indeed. By God’s grace and power, I no longer am in bondage to this sin. For those who struggle, I strongly urge them to fill their minds with God’s word, avoid triggers such as gay bars, and do not hold a perverse thought in your mind. You will struggle if you contemplate your past or dwell long on the matter. Fear of the Lord ( I am talking holy fear and reverence) will deter this as well.
One last thing, you say ‘o I think, as Christians, we need to be careful how we respond to homosexuals, especially those who are believers themselves and honestly struggle with this sin’—how can one be a homosexual and be a believer as well? This flies in the face of the doctrine of repentance and regeneration. Yes, truly born from above Christians fall into sin; however, they do not make a practice of it, especially sexual sin. There are too many warnings and commands against sexual sin for one to tarry and struggle too long with. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.
As for reading all of Romans 1&2, I am aware of its context. I chose verses 26&27 because it was in those verses that the truth on what homosexuality is based on is found. I do not believe this post is judging homosexuals, nor is that my intention: it is giving them truth concerning their forbidden passion. I know firsthand the powerful bondage of this particular sin; that is why I posted my testimony. There is hope and freedom from all sin in Christ alone.
Lyn
thank you Lyn.
He loved you first
1 john 4:10
Sadly, I attended a Bible Study and spoke to a lady afterwards in regards to a topic in Scripture. She seemed to encourage me to read the message bible as a good understanding on a verse. I decided to research futher on the Message and found out this disturbing paraphrase of
Romans 1:27
“men didn’t know how to be men. Sexually confused, they abused and defiled one another, women with women, men with men — all lust, no love. And then they paid for it, oh, how they paid for it –emptied of God and love, godless and loveless wretches.”
Yikes!!!:(((
You are so right. Homosexuals are driven not guided by only lust.
The dead give-away that reveals the homosexual for what he is: is his all consuming focused and intense view of his sexual organ. His unbridled sexual desires that define not only who he, is and how he behaves, control the entire direction of his life.
In other words his sexual organ determines his identity. His sexual organ controls his behavior. His sexual organ moves him to march in parades demanding that his sexual organ be recognized as his very life.
He is ignorant of the fact that it is not the sexual organ that thinks but it is the mind.
To allow one’s sexual organ and raging lustful hormones to determine who one is is sad indeed.
Totally agree, great artical and i agree with the last coment too.
I’ve often felt that way. I mean yea I struggle with this and a million other sexual sins, but I know full well what drives it. But even from my skewed view of the world, I don’t see love in homosexual relationships. Or straight.
But I never saw the point in marching in parades broadcasting what your kink is. I mean, are we going to have sadomasochist parades next? But then I’ve always disconnected love from sex. Except with my fiancé maybe…